It’s been almost a year since I’ve blogged. Life seems to keep me pretty busy these days. Between acting all season, taking a part-time gig with Brienne Michelle Photography as a Production Assistant, Mommy-ing Abigail (who will turn 3 on Sunday!) and trying to find the time to hang with the hubby, blogging got knocked down a few priority pegs. Now we add “baking” (as my husband and I fondly refer to this pregnancy) to the list, and I have no idea what I’ll be able to promise as far as posts in the future.
However, as we have been announcing this wonderful news to the world, I get the same few questions over and over. The obvious: How are you feeling? How far along are you? When is your due date? Are you going to find out the sex? (Tired and Nauseous, 11 weeks, December 19th, and yes!).
But I get an extra question that most don’t get. And that question is, “So what’s the plan?” Everyone wants to know just how we plan to care for this baby/pregnancy, and what is being done to ensure we make it further along than we did the first time around. Valid question folks! And I am more than willing to share. But I am warning you now – While I will be as non-graphic as possible, the answers you seek are a bit on the personal side. Just FYI.
To answer the question, we have to back track to what happened last go-round. While we will never know for absolute sure what caused my pre-term labor, we are 90% positive it was due to an infection in my uterus that penetrated my placenta. It caused an abruption (a tear) that essentially signaled to my body that I was about to miscarry. When that happens, your body sort of goes into “flush” mode. My body terminated the pregnancy. As you know, amazing doctors and medical technology intervened to save the day.
But we were left with the reality that once the infection got to my placenta, there was nothing that could have been done to stop what happened. And this particular infection was the third one I’d had in the short 24 weeks I was pregnant. In the 3 years since Abigail was born, I’ve had 5 infections. Fast forward to now: I’m 11 weeks pregnant as of this coming Thursday and we’ve already battled one infection. (Don’t worry – we killed that sucker.)
We know, without a doubt, that I will get more infections in my uterus. It is simply a fact about my body. Knowing that fact gives us a battle plan, so to speak. Dr. David Ghausi, the man who delivered Abigail, is my OBGYN. And his plan is a proactive one. While most women simply “check in” every 4-6 weeks with their doctors, I get checked out. Every 4 weeks, without fail (until he ups it to 3, then 2, then 1 week at a time) I see Dr. G. And while we chat about how I’m feeling and any questions I have, per usual, he is much more interested in my insides. Every visit is invasive with vaginal swabs and internal ultrasounds. They run tons of tests off the swabs, expecting to find infections. And when (not if) they do, we kill it as quickly as possible, before it can do any damage.
It’s a lot of testing and a lot of antibiotics and lots of communication. Our team includes a High Risk doctor who checks me out 2-3 times a Trimester. And who will be present for the birth, as well. (He was also there the day Abigail was born). My doctors are VERY confident that we can get passed the 24week mark this time around. We are optimistic that we can go well into the 3rd trimester, and we will do everything we can to get to no less than 38 weeks. But we are also realistic. We know that there will be other infections – other threats to the well being of this pregnancy. So the likelihood that this baby will be early is high. The concern, of course, is how early. I pray it will not be significant.
So that’s the plan. Keep the best tabs on my uterus as we can, fight whatever comes our way with an iron fist, and pray. It is truly doing everything we can. I’m feeling pretty confident about it all. I know I’m in good hands and I’m doing all I can to take care of myself here at home. Anthony and I want to say Thank You for all of the love, support, and prayers you all have already sent our way. We appreciate it! I promise to keep you all as updated as possible.